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The Mentor Connection System®

Here’s what couples are saying about the Lasting Connection System® 

  • “I am so grateful for this system. Thank you so much!”
  • “I think the real value in the connection system is it helps you to separate the emotions/elements and due to that it’s easier to identify true root causes and also recognize your own attachment needs.”
  • “I really like the pause section. It helps me follow my wife’s thoughts.”
  • “I like that even when we start in a harsh place as we move around the system we soften up and it feels so positive.”
  • “Our conversations with the system are very helpful, we slow down and each of us are heard.”
  • “The talking we’ve done with the connection system so far was very helpful and has given me hope that we can fix our marriage.”
  • “We’ve just used the connection system once and I learned new thing about my behavior already.”
  • “I am happily surprised how effective the structure is.”
  • “I am amazed how good it feels to communicate calmly with such deep emotions.”

GET YOUR CONNECTION SYSTEM TODAY AND HELP YOUR COUPLES Learn to Co-Regulate Emotion and share the deeper feelings that really matter. 

“I used the [Lasting Connection System®] clinically with a couple together about 18 years. After trying to do EFT with just talk therapy,  the Connection System was a breakthrough transformation in their understanding of their role in the negative cycle. I was pleasantly surprised. One partner has a heavy trauma past and I think slowing it right down on the mat allowed them to grasp it, share it, and feel heard by their partner for the first time in years.  And the other partner was able to understand the pain they were experiencing of not feeling heard. Thank you so much!”
Charlene R.

Benefits of the Lasting Connection System®

When you utilize the Lasting Connection System® with couples you will have the tool you need to help them move into more closeness as well as helping them learn to move through distress to connection more reliably and quickly – one step at a time.

You will notice:

  • The Lasting Connection System®, through your mentoring, guides couples through a process where they learn, through supported experience, how to be open and what to be open about as well as how and when to respond with empathy.  These are skills most couples don’t have and can be difficult to learn as adults. 
  • The Lasting Connection System® provides you a clear path to help couples navigate through issues and differences in a manner that is transparent, concrete and connecting.
  • The Lasting Connection System® provides you structure that will support your quest to work with emotion “here and now,” allowing you to monitor the process with a visible reference that keeps your couples working together,  that helps them emerge with a richer, more effective communication experience.
  • The Lasting Connection System® is perfect to use as homework between therapy sessions to help couples understand and share more fully, including their inner worlds and process of emotion which encourages an increase of love and understanding. If you utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy you will find the Lasting Connection System® provides excellent at-home practice in support of the work you are doing with your couples in therapy. This practice is designed to increase the effectiveness of your therapy sessions by helping them share more clearly, connect intentionally and settled into a deeper self-awareness and a more open and connected relationship. Imagine, helping couples reach their relational goals and feel better faster.
  • Through using the Lasting Communication System®, your clients will learn aspects of communication that incorporate the principles of attachment theory that are not taught or emphasized in typical communication skills training. Your clients will learn how to share and process issues on a deeper, more vulnerable level. The connection system assists your clients to remain focused and grounded while sharing to prevent reactive responses or becoming flooded. 
  • The Lasting Connection System® prompts your couples to discover and share hidden feeling and needs. As you mentor them with the Lasting Connection System® you will help them begin to discover they can share what really matters and problem solve together.  Most importantly, one step at a time they learn how to be accessible, responsive and engaged with each other, which is key to the development of secure attachment.
Mentor Connection System to help couples communicate deeply

Ready to purchase the Connection System for Mentors? You’ll be glad you did.

What the Mentor Lasting Connection System® includes:

Mentor Manual – full instructions on how to introduce the Lasting Connection System® to your clients, including the theoretical framework and couple exercises.

2-Sided 8 feet x 4 feet Lasting Connection System® Floor Mat

Additional Couple Exercises