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The Couple Home Lasting Connection System®

Benefits of the Lasting Connection System®

When you learn how to utilize the Lasting Connection System® with your partner you will have the additional tools you need to move into more closeness as well as through distress to connection more reliably and quickly – one step at a time. 

You will notice:

  • The Lasting Connection System® guides you through a process where you learn, through supported experience, how to be open and what to be open about as well as how and when to respond with empathy.  These are skills most couples don’t have and can be difficult to learn as adults. 
  • The Lasting Connection System® assists you and your partner in navigating through issues and differences in a manner that is transparent, concrete and connecting.
  • The Lasting Connection System® guides you in your quest to deal with emotion “here and now,” allowing you to monitor the process with a visible reference that keeps you working together,  that helps you and your partner emerge with a richer, more effective communication experience.
  • If you and/or your partner are in therapy for relationship concerns the Lasting Connection System® is perfect to use as homework between therapy sessions to get to know yourself and your partner better as well as to increase your love and understanding. If you are in Emotionally Focused Therapy you will find the Lasting Connection System® provides excellent at-home practice in support of the work you are doing with your therapist. This practice is designed to increase the effectiveness of your therapy sessions by helping your feel more clear, connected and settled in your own self-awareness as well as in your relationship so the time you spend in therapy  can better utilize your therapist’s expertise and make their support more targeted. Imagine, reaching your goals and feeling better faster.
  • Through using the Lasting Communication System®, you will learn aspects of communication that incorporate the principles of attachment theory that are not taught or emphasized in typical communication skills training. You learn how to share and process issues on a deeper, more vulnerable level. The mat assists you to remain focused and grounded while sharing instead of feeling triggered or flooded. It prompts you to discover and share hidden feeling and needs. You begin to discover you can problem solve together.  Most importantly, taking one step at a time, you learn how to be accessible, responsive and engaged, which is key to the development secure attachment.

The Lasting Connection System® is a groundbreaking and innovative method that guides couples seeking to connect to share in a more full, authentic, deep and meaningful manner. This Lasting Connection System® is not only experiential, it slows down the process of communication between you and your partner to facilitate emotional expression while exploring possibilities, navigating problem solving or turning around conflict. The Lasting Connection System® provides you with a structure that is designed to create a safe container enabling you to stay in communication that brings you closer together. The system  keeps the process transparent so you can each remain clear about what you want to explore, decide or heal together and what each next step is. 

The Lasting Connection System® includes:

  • A detailed instruction manual
  • Preparation Exercises
  • Conversation Starters
  • A beautiful and durable 8 x 4 foot mat to literally move you into deeper connection and understanding one step at a time. Each side of the system has a specific purpose that guides you in your quest to connect with and understand yourself and your partner more deeply, even in the midst of what could typically be a very difficult conversation.

· Side 1 of the System provides the Communicating for Closeness process.

· Side 2 of the System provides the From Conflict to Connection process.


Here’s what couples are saying about the Lasting Connection System® 

  • “I am so grateful for this system. Thank you so much!”
  • “I think the real value in the connection system is it helps you to separate the emotions/elements and due to that it’s easier to identify true root causes and also recognize your own attachment needs.”
  • “I really like the pause section. It helps me follow my wife’s thoughts.”
  • “I like that even when we start in a harsh place as we move around the system we soften up and it feels so positive.”
  • “Such powerful exercises!”
  • “Our conversations with the system are very helpful, we slow down and each of us are heard.”
  • “The talking we’ve done with the connection system so far was very helpful and has given me hope that we can fix our marriage.”
  • “We’ve just used the connection system once and I learned new thing about my behavior already.”
  • “I am happily surprised how effective the structure is.”
  • “I am amazed how good it feels to communicate calmly with such deep emotions.”